A person’s engagement day ranks amongst the top five a person can experience, right there between college graduation, their wedding day, finding out that they’re expecting and the birth of their child. Nobody expects to be proposed to (or vice versa) and be disappointed in the end. But that’s just what one mumset user was after her man proposed–disappointed–but not for the reasons you might expect.
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Let’s be honest: today’s men have it tough. With promposals being glorified events that include helicopter rides, horse rides on the beach and crazy cool concert seats, adult males find it tough to compete with their teenaged counterparts. Still, women expect some sort of romantic gesture from their man, if not necessarily a unicorn coated in diamonds. So, when this woman took to the Internet to complain about her engagement day, many users assumed that her rant would end with, “He proposed to me in a pub over a pint of Guinness and didn’t even have the courtesy to get down on one knee!” But nope. That’s not where she went with it at all.
This woman received the scorn of many, and the sympathy of few when she decided to share her distaste for the ring.
Yes, she did not like her ring. But it’s not simply the fact that she didn’t like it that made people upset–it was her explanation for why she didn’t like it.
It is true that a woman has to wear her wedding ring on her hand for the rest of her life. That being said, the man, woman, what-have-you should put a considerable amount of time and consideration into making sure it’s The One. While we’re not sure if that’s what this woman’s fiance did, what we do know for sure is that this woman is a little (dare we say)…ungrateful.
Here’s how her rant played out:
DP proposed and presented me with the ring he’d chosen – a diamond solitaire in white gold. I was so happy and excited to accept but was disappointed when I first saw the ring. The first word that entered my head was ‘small.’
Source: Flickr / Sibyl Vane
Okay…so we’re already a little wary of what she’s going to say next.
There’s nothing to dislike about the type of ring per se. As a diamond, solitaire would have been my choice, but it’s the whole thing — the colour of the gold, the setting, the small stone and relatively chunky shoulders.
Well, that explains it: she doesn’t like the style. That’s not so bad, right?
She’s not done.
His salary is nearing a 6 figure sum and he’s usually very generous. Having seen the receipt I know he paid £1,300for it – which is a lot less than I would have imagined he would have spent on such a significant piece of jewelry.
And there’s the root of the issue.
He’ll be more disappointed in me for making a fuss over it when, in his eyes, it fits and there’s nothing actually wrong with it, rather than being disappointed that I’m not truly happy with it.
Someone at work apparently told him that ‘if she makes it all about the ring, then she’s not the girl for you.’
I’d say the guy at work was right on.
Ideally I would have loved for us to have chosen a ring together and made a special day finding one we both liked.
As it’s something I’ll be wearing every day and is such a special piece of jewelry, I wanted to really love it and I just don’t.
Has anyone else been in this situation? What did you do?
Um, what do we think? Let’s not get into that, and instead, explore what other users thought of the woman’s attitude.
If you’d said you didn’t like the style, I’d have been fairly sympathetic. But if it’s simply not big and flashy enough… it sounds like you’re more interested in showing off the ring than you are in him.
Another user thinks her fiancé’s friend at work was onto something:
Blimey. I’d have been delighted; talk about being ungrateful, the person at work is 100% right.
Very few users were sympathetic to the woman, but even those that were couldn’t get on board with the whole price issue:
You will get flamed for this and people will call you grabby but I can see where you are coming from — not the cost per se but the fact u will be wearing it every day and u are not totally in love with it. I can see both viewpoints.
What are your thoughts on the woman’s reaction to her fiance’s grand gesture of love?
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